How do you deal with rejection? Everyone has their go to way of dealing with it.
Do you post about it on Facebook? Do you write about it in your journal? Call all your friends and talk it out? Mull it over again and again in solitude?
Whatever you do, every rejection changes you. whether you care to admit it or not. It does.
This isn't an easy post for me to write but after reading this post, i am deciding t tackle it: http://godsizeddreams.com/god-sized-rejection/
I was raised to not just exceed expectations but to set higher ones for myself. I was always expected to go one step above, reach one foot higher (which is extremely hard to do for a short person!) than the norm. When the expectations are that high, the rejection that comes along is harder to deal with. I have dealt with rejection all my life and a lot of times it was from my own... family, friends, and of course, God (although I know thats all in my head.)
The kind of rejection that has ruined me the most? the one where I reject myself. No, I dont have multiple personalities, although sometimes it feels like that would almost make life easier somehow. I have mentioned this before, you will hear me say "I am fighting with myself..." quite often. I struggle with pleasing two versions of myself: Worldly or Spiritual. There are times when Worldly me will do or say or watch something and the aftermath of that is not a pretty sight! Worse? when my Spiritual side does something and my Worldly side is kicking and screaming the whole way through.
I am one of the people who retreats into a corner and replays an incident on my own. If I were to talk it out or post it on FB, it would just be a hot mess! The good part?
There's always a way... out! With God, its the Hope that doesn't disappoint.
These days, my rejection is dealt with praise and worship music, prayer, the Bible and sermons from some amazing men of God. If i stay in my corner, in my head, i will never never never enjoy a breath i take or a sunrise or even that pain in my legs when i have been running too long on the treadmill. I have to INTENTIONALLY push my thoughts to God and say "I cant even deal right now..."
and my hope? that God will be kinder than I am to myself.
Whether it be dreams like in the post i referred to earlier or rejection like it is in my case, we offer it up to the Lord and we LEAVE it with Him.
So...deep breath...Love God and the rest will follow.
Do you post about it on Facebook? Do you write about it in your journal? Call all your friends and talk it out? Mull it over again and again in solitude?
Whatever you do, every rejection changes you. whether you care to admit it or not. It does.
This isn't an easy post for me to write but after reading this post, i am deciding t tackle it: http://godsizeddreams.com/god-sized-rejection/
I was raised to not just exceed expectations but to set higher ones for myself. I was always expected to go one step above, reach one foot higher (which is extremely hard to do for a short person!) than the norm. When the expectations are that high, the rejection that comes along is harder to deal with. I have dealt with rejection all my life and a lot of times it was from my own... family, friends, and of course, God (although I know thats all in my head.)
The kind of rejection that has ruined me the most? the one where I reject myself. No, I dont have multiple personalities, although sometimes it feels like that would almost make life easier somehow. I have mentioned this before, you will hear me say "I am fighting with myself..." quite often. I struggle with pleasing two versions of myself: Worldly or Spiritual. There are times when Worldly me will do or say or watch something and the aftermath of that is not a pretty sight! Worse? when my Spiritual side does something and my Worldly side is kicking and screaming the whole way through.
I am one of the people who retreats into a corner and replays an incident on my own. If I were to talk it out or post it on FB, it would just be a hot mess! The good part?
These days, my rejection is dealt with praise and worship music, prayer, the Bible and sermons from some amazing men of God. If i stay in my corner, in my head, i will never never never enjoy a breath i take or a sunrise or even that pain in my legs when i have been running too long on the treadmill. I have to INTENTIONALLY push my thoughts to God and say "I cant even deal right now..."
and my hope? that God will be kinder than I am to myself.
Whether it be dreams like in the post i referred to earlier or rejection like it is in my case, we offer it up to the Lord and we LEAVE it with Him.
So...deep breath...Love God and the rest will follow.
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